& back to my point, I am not saying I am qualified to diagnose, but I am qualified to know and understand what I am talking about....
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Causes, incidence, and risk factors
The causes of borderline personality disorder (BPD) are unknown. Genetic, family, and social factors are thought to play roles.
Risk factors for BPD include:
Abandonment in childhood or adolescence
Disrupted family life
Poor communication in the family
This personality disorder tends to occur more often in women.
Symptoms
People with BPD are often uncertain about their identity. As a result, their interests and values may change rapidly. [and often]
People with BPD also tend to see things in terms of extremes, such as either all good or all bad. [there are no grey areas in life and they tend to constantly switch sides and views on social, moral, religious and political issues] Their views of other people may change quickly. [and often; even switching between individuals they hate then like again ] A person who is looked up to one day may be looked down on the next day. These suddenly shifting feelings often lead to intense and unstable relationships.
Other symptoms of BPD include:
Fear of being abandoned
Feelings of emptiness and boredom [usually blamed on other people for not being interested enough in their life]
Frequent displays of inappropriate anger [often at other people, deciding to hate or dislike them with no incident or real reason besides what is conjured in their own head]
Intolerance of being alone [always has to find someone to fill that "best friend" role and demands much attention and time to qualify being a good friend but not giving any of that "best friend-ness" back in return]
Treatment
[like alcohol or drug addiction the first step is acceptance because first reactions on learning about their issue is going to be denial...] Many types of individual talk therapy, such as dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), can successfully treat BPD.In some cases, medications can help level mood swings and treat depression or other disorders that may occur with this condition.
Expectations (prognosis)
The outlook depends on how severe the condition is and whether the person is willing to accept help. With long-term talk therapy, the person will often gradually improve.
Complications
Problems with work, family, and social relationships
Depression
References
- Blais MA, Smallwood P, Groves JE, Rivas-Vazquez RA. Personality and personality disorders. In: Stern TA, Rosenbaum JF, Fava M, Biederman J, Rauch SL, eds. Massachusetts General Hospital Comprehensive Clinical Psychiatry. 1st ed. Philadelphia, Pa: Mosby Elsevier;2008:chap 39.
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Now I am not making light of or making fun of this issue or disease or condition - it is serious and it is legit and it tears people's lives apart those with it and those affected by it...
Does it sound like anyone you know? Yeah, sounds like someone I know, and I actually have a lot of sympathy and sadness for such individuals. I hate knowing they need help and that by denying a problem they are utilmately responsible for the demise of their relationships whether they are friendships or partnered relationships. The reason they will always face this issues in life is because of the two extreme ends of personality - there is no set time period for one extreme and these individuals will switch between the two without even knowing it so one day after they think life is looking up and everything is perfect and working out they wake up and are miserable and depressed again. They can't figure out why their friendships or relationships aren't working...
What's worse is when people have tried to reach out and help or offer/suggest they get help before they enter this other emtoional extreme. But then before they can admit there is something wrong they wake up one day and decide that this person who cared about them and only wanted what was best for them, someone who genuinely was trying to help them feel better was no longer a good friend to them.
You think it can't get worse than that either until this person starts realizing what they have done - but it's easier to listen to lies or make up lies to believe so they never have to encounter any guilts or admit that maybe this person they have decided to hate so intensely isn't the bad guy. Are they perfect and flawless - no I have made mistakes and I have my faults but I own them and welcome them. I don't set out to spread lies about someone else - I don't try to recruit others to hate me as well - and I especially don't set out to try and influence the opinions of those who don't actually know me. I don't try to convince others or my family to not like someone just because I choose to think of them or treat them worst than dirt...
So whose worse? Those who spread the lies and spend their free time trashing my name, or those who choose to believe it even after no bad experiences in my presence (and knowing who I am but choosing to listen to others than themselves and what they know to be true) and those who choose to believe things about another person not even personally knowing me...
I don't know, and in the long run I don't really care because I know and have confidence that I am staying true to myself.
I don't hide anything I do. I don't act any differently with people around me as I would alone or behind closed doors. I don't lie to my friends. I don't lie to my family. I don't sugar coat my thoughts or opinions. I will welcome confrontation and if you are going to confront me then be that adult you claim to be in approaching me and don't get others to try calling or texting me and doing your dirty work. - I am real and I am ME. I find that is usually what most people don't like and I am not going to change who I am to please ANYONE. If you accept me for who I am then great - if you don't then that is your choice.
Oh, and also don't ever assume you know what I am doing and or thinking .. don't tell me "you know what I wanted to talk about" because last time I checked .. i don't read minds and you can't read mine either. Assuming things just make you look stupid (dumb) and immature....
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