Three Years ♥

Today marks three incredible years of my life with the one I know I will love and cherish forever. It has not been an easy road - but it has been worth every struggle together or individually which we have faced. Since it's a week day I have planned to make his favorite meal for dinner - homemade; and then we are going out Saturday to celebrate together with a nice meal and just some quality fun time...

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on a side note since it's a day to celebrate relationships (well at least in my life) I have some additional commentary/soapbox ramblings some might get something out of, some who might care less about:::
I saw a quote the other day that I loved; it said: "If I have to explain it to you, then you don't understand." I really feel my relationship fits there because most people don't understand, most  people fall into three categories when they decide my relationship is their business:

1. they think I'm crazy, don't support it, think it will fail and never last.
2. they support it to they best of their understanding, might be too nosy sometimes, but at least it shows they care for the good not to destroy
3. they are indifferent - they don't understand it, don't really care t understand it and respectfully don't stick their nose where it doesn't belong.

Really, none of these categories phase me or my relationship at all. Some can try to convince themselves that they personally impact my choices and decisions in a relationship but the truth is, you don't - so cheers to all those who don't want to see me happy because you just make me that much stronger, you make my relationship so much better!

I felt for a friend the other day who shares a few common attacks on their relationship with a man in uniform. I had heard it myself before, but  she was discussing how someone said to her, she can't include the months and days her current boyfriend was away on deployment for how long they have been in a relationship. Like I mentioned I have had this said to me and I call BS - what difference does it make if your boyfriend or fiance or husband is deployed overseas with the military in whether or not you've been with this person for "x" amount of time?? Because not only is such a statement ignorant, it just goes to show the insecurities people have in their own relationships.

Just because you can't remain faithful to one individual when they don't live right down the road, doesn't mean other people have the same fallacies. The argument for that would be that those who's boyfriends, fiances, and husbands aren't in the military can only count how long their relationship has been with the days, hours, and minutes they have physically been in the presence of their significant other....

It's a petty comment made to try and hurt someone's feelings, but I would bet any day that a girl (or guy) who can stick by the one they love through a deployment is going to have better communication and trust (two of the most important cornerstones in a relationship) between each other and overall a stronger and healthier relationship than most... NOT 100% of the time, and that doesn't mean civilian relationships can't have the same thing, but if that is the attack angle you must take on someone it's a result of jealously and/or your own personally screwed up relationship or sense of reality.

NOW...sorry, I am done with my relationship soapbox -- but the point is what my love and I have is extraordinary, wonderful and stronger than most realize. Some don't want to accept that, and that is alright because it is one less obsticle and one less annoyance for us to deal with!

I have found the love of my life, and I wouldn't change anything about how we met, or how the last three years of or lives have been, for anything!