Have you ever been dumped..?

Okay, well I don't mean by your boyfriend or girlfriend. Who has ever actually been dumped by the one person you felt connected to, or you thought was the best of friends then the next thing you know; all out of the blue - BANG!

You've been dumped.

Kinda a strange concept, but I believe it happens more than we think. I've had to deal with that, and not just once but I actually have been through it twice now (same individual).

And honestly, it hurts - even the second time around. I tend to be a generous and caring individual. And that is what happened to me, I was kind and compassionate and decided I would give someone a second chance. They apologized for the way they treated me and I was slowly feeling more confident being on good terms would come around sooner than later - and next thing I know, because I have offended them in some shape or form, they were willing to throw all the hard work away a SECOND TIME. (I guess they really weren't ever sorry or really cared - fool me once shame on you, but fool me twice, and shame on me!)

You see, I will confront people when I have been wronged or felt I have been wronged by them, but don't confuse that with me being a "bitchy" person. I just feel that as an adult I should be able to approach someone with a question or concern the rightfully involves me and recieve a grown-up response. (I mean in my last post remember those people who argue "I'm older" which automatically means they are more mature?) It is those same people who refuse to discuss and handle "problems" as adults. What is even more ironic is the fact that really there was never an issue until someone decided they don't want to actually handle a situation as an adult - then all of a sudden the one who did the confronting becomes this "child" who does nothing but create DRAMA?! (Funny thing - no drama would occur if people would just get whatever it is over with.) I mean the thing with drama is that, usually the people who "hate" it or "can't stand" it are the ones who bring it upon themselves.

If you have an issue or are upset with someone. TALK to them about it. Don't go ignore them when they try to talk to you, don't go delete or block them of a social networking site, because then all you are asking for is to be confronted by someone rather than being the one to confront. You know if you can't handle confrontation as an adult among your peers, then how do you expect to survive in the real world, in the work force where your boss and co-workers are going to be constantly confronting you and guess what!!? They might hurt your feelings - I'm sorry it just comes with the territory.

Sure, confrontation is hard, it hurts, and many times people don't do it because they are too concerned and wrapped up in themselves to put a part of them out there. Fear I believe is the number one characteristic which keeps people from confronting issues they have. Why? Because they are too scared that they might offend someone (whether intentionally or unintentionally). Or people become afraid it might cause a strain on familial or friendship relations. But you know, there comes a time in everyone's life when they need to learn to be able to fend for themselves. Unfortunately in today's society you can't always count on someone being there, even family in some instances. You have to learn to be able to stand on your own two feet, and be able to support yourself. This isn't a negative thing, and it doesn't mean you won't find that one person who will stand by you for the rest of your life, but if you can't be "independent" your never going to survive being "dependant" on other people.

Trust is a great component, but you have to be able to trust yourself as well first. So know this, the only two people you can trust 100% 24/7 is yourself, and God. Sure, friends and families and spouses ect - they can be trusted, but NO ONE is perfect, even yourself, so there will be times of trial, hurt, and when you will be let down. However, instead of feeling orry for yourself, why don't you use that and make something good come from it!

Age is just a number.

Over the past year or so, there has been this reoccurring issue that has not only really irritated me, but shows just how immature and insecure people are. Have you ever heard the argument that goes a little something like this; "Well I am older" or "because of my age" then "I therefore need to be the responsible one." OR my personal irritation is well because "you are only such-and-such an age then you're not mature enough to understand" or "it doesn't concern you."

Life is not measure by your years in age, but rather the experiences you have. You grow and mature based off of what you deal with not because you reach a certain age. Just because I am 19, versus someone who is 23 or 25 does NOT mean I am a "child."I am SICK and TIRED of people using age as a label for people.

If you know me, you know that I have been through, and dealt with more than anyone my age should have to go through. We all have our tough times in life, and we all have the pain from our path to deal with. We all have mistakes, we all have regrets. However, everyone's experiences and troubles are more significant to them than they might be to an outsider looking in. Just because you may think something I have gone through can't even begin to compare to what you suffered at some point in your life does NOT make my experiences or obstacles any less significant, nor does it make yours any more significant.

I will not sit here and make an argument or lash out that when you label someone based on age, that in return actually makes yourself childish, because then that really has served no one any purpose but instead puts me right onto your level of immaturity.

I REFUSE to become the kind of person who lives one way but says another; unlike some people I know who talk one way, and turn into everything they say they are against. It's painful for me to watch genuinely good people turn into and become the type of person they "hate" and don't want to be like, and then see just how completely blinded they become to the point where even when it is pointed out to them they cannot see it, and then therefore, everyone else becomes the "terrible" individual.